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Enhancing Sexual Confidence
Sexual confidence can do wonders to our life. It can
infuse fresh energy in your life and make your life
a desirable one. Sexual
confidence can help you gain new friends and make
your intimate life a memorable one.
Studies suggest that both men and women are turned
on by confidence. Women want their partner to not only
know what will bring her pleasure- but also to offer
to do those things for her! A man also wants to feel
confident that he can not only bring his partner pleasure-
but he also needs to know that the pleasure she feels
is genuine. According to a recent MarsVenus.com poll,
only 10.2% of the men in the surveyed thought women
should fake an orgasm- everyone else wanted her to really
have one! For a man, knowing that his partner is truly
enjoying herself significantly increases his sexual
confidence and gives new lease of life to the sexual
relationships.
Though sexual confidence is very essential still lots
of couples are uncomfortable talking about sex. Many
men feel uncomfortable asking women about their sexual
likes and dislikes and many women are not comfortable
talking directly about what they want in bed. While
we all seem to want someone who can "read our mind"
the only real way to achieve this is by communicating
our needs.
For enhancing your sexual confidence, you can follow
these valuable tips:
- Read books together that talk about sex. This is
a non-threatening way for couples to explore sexual
"how-to" talk about differences and give
feedback without feeling blamed for doing it wrong.
This exercise is often quite fun for couples. Try
reading the exercises out loud- alternate between
being the reader and the listener.
- Talk about sex because for a man to truly understand
what a woman needs, a simple discussion can make a
big and lasting difference.
- Timing: Let's face it; it's just not sexy to ask
what a person likes during sex. A good time to talk
is after sex, particularly if the sex was good. This
will allow your partner to open up and talk about
what made them feel good. It's a good idea- if you
talk right after sex- to ask for positive feedback
only. Wait for the criticism until the emotions have
passed and you are both able to separate your feelings
from the actual experience.
- Give positive direction last, and certainly not
least, during sex simply move your partner gently
in the direction that will be most pleasurable. They'll
quickly get the message!
So, use these tips and witness the difference in your
sex life by yourself.
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